Episode 019 Minisode Are You In Your Own Way?

Welcome back to the distillery podcast!
Last episode we focused on common sense and why it’s important to know and understand the difference between common sense, common knowledge and common nature.

In this minisode we’ll explore common nature further as I think it can add helpful nuance to one of the most frustrating realities I think everyone experiences at some point; the fact that as people we often get in our own way.

What do I mean by that?

Last episode’s coaching question centered around identifying an area to focus on regularly asking yourself, “Am I about to do what’s easiest, or what’s best?”
That question is really just one way of highlighting how you may be getting in your own way at times. It’s shining a light on how your action (or inaction) may actually be working against your own goals or the things you say you care about.

But kind of “sleepwalking” through life – living out of that common nature without thinking about it, paying attention to it or questioning it – is just one way we can get in our own way.

Do you have an inner dialogue in your head? If fact, we all do! Sometimes that inner dialogue is critical, judgmental, shaming… When your inner dialogue gets out of whack you may convince yourself you can’t do something when really it’s just hard or scary. Or you may convince yourself you have no other options but the crummy one you see in front of your face when in fact there are always myriad of possibilities that can be hard to see if you’re stuck in your own tunnel vision. Sometimes that inner dialogue gets in the way of living into what’s actually most important to you.

At times you may have competing goals, or even just too many goals, that you’re trying to work towards simultaneous without realizing the real strain, push and pull you’re putting on yourself in the process. You’re getting in your own way because you don’t even realize the impossible struggle you’ve caused.

I think you probably get the point by now. Sometimes as humans we’re all going to be our own worst enemy. Sometimes you’re biggest problem or struggle really will be that you’re getting in your own way.

What’s the point of this discussion? To make you feel bad about how you might be the cause of your own frustration? Definitely not! These things often go on unconsciously, meaning you’re not aware of how your thoughts or actions might actually be in your way.
But – and here’s the important part – once you’re aware of these dynamics, once you accept that you may be getting in your own way, at times being your own worst enemy, then you can actually pay attention, notice and do something about it!
This is one of those places where the saying “knowledge is power” is definitely true.

End of Episode Coaching Questions:
Where have you possibly been getting in your own way lately?
Now that you named that reality, what are you going to do about it?

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